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Shoulder the Burden — at the Doctor’s Office
How Allies Can Help LGBTQ+ Friends and Family Navigate Healthcare
Navigating the healthcare system is challenging for anyone, but for LGBTQ+ individuals, the hurdles can feel insurmountable. From encountering discrimination to a lack of understanding, these experiences can create barriers to essential care. In my previous article, The Doctor Dilemma: Finding an LGBTQ+ Friendly Provider Without Losing Your Mind (or Your Health), we explored how LGBTQ+ individuals can advocate for themselves. Now, let’s shift focus to allies — those who want to stand beside their loved ones and ensure they receive the respect and care they deserve.
When I started looking for a new doctor, I didn’t realize how much of an emotional and logistical journey it would become. For over a year, I poured my energy into researching providers, trying to find someone I could trust and feel safe with. It wasn’t just about medical care — it was about finding a space where I could be my authentic self without fear of judgment or discrimination.
Throughout this process, my partner was my rock. They listened when I vented about yet another dead-end lead, offered to help with research when I felt overwhelmed, and celebrated with me when I finally found a doctor who respected and affirmed me. Their support…
