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Why Saying No To Sex Feels Like A Betrayal in relationship?
The silent heart behind every not tonight.
In marriages where love should mean safety, many still fear that “not tonight” might sound like “I don’t love you anymore.”
No one warns you about this part of marriage: how saying no to sex can feel like betrayal.
It’s not about not loving your partner.
It’s not about rejection.
It’s simply that sometimes, you’re just too tired — mentally, physically, emotionally.
Maybe your day was long. Maybe your mind is restless. Maybe you just want to feel held, not touched.
But saying no? It feels like stepping into quicksand.
You fear their disappointment.
You worry about the silence that will follow.
You dread the thought of feeling guilty for protecting your own body.
Why does saying no feel so heavy? Why does it feel like you’re failing your marriage? This are some of the questions that often lingers in our heart when say no.
