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5 Common Reasons Why Women Say “No” to a Second Date
Some of them you can’t influence — but some you definitely can
1. The chemistry “just wasn’t there.”
You may be thinking this is based on how you look, but that’s almost always not the case.
If your profile accurately represented your appearance, it’s not your appearance she didn’t click with on the date.
It’s your vibe.
What does that mean?
It’s how you “feel” to her. Did you feel comfortable? Warm? Curious? Silly?Just a little dangerous? I’m not saying you should aim for all or even any of these things — there’s no one-size-fits-all vibe!
But figure out what qualities are natural for you to project, and then pick among those which ones you want to make a point of projecting on the date.
For example, I know a very sweet, nervous nerdy guy who knows it’s natural for him to project kindness, warmth, competence, and anxiety.
He makes an effort on dates to express those first three, and generally speaking, the women he’s into are charmed enough by the kindness/warmth/competence that they’re not really paying that much attention to his anxiety.
