From Victim To Thriver

Dont let the past hold you back from your future

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I spent many years with the attitude that no one understands me and that I have been so hurt so it's ok for me to hurt others.

It's wrong and not an attitude I am proud of but a mentality that is common across the world we live in — The Victim Mentality.

You see, being hurt by someone, especially someone you love, is painful and confusing. It makes you ask questions like, ‘’why me?’’ or ‘’what have I done to deserve this?’’

But you know what I have realised over the years. It is never usually about you or me. It's nearly always about the other person, the person who hurt you. We will come back to this later on in the piece.

The Load

For now, let's look at the victim mentality so many carry like a heavy load across the world. A victim mentality is a feeling that you are constantly a victim of your life experiences. You feel like you lack control in your life and that life is happening to you.

Blaming others when things go wrong is second nature, and ‘’why is life so hard’’ is your most used phrase.

Here’s the truth, life is hard and, understandably, people feel this way. People get dealt the shittiest cards all of the time, but how is…