Member-only story
Why Indifference Hurts Toxic People
I used to think anger was the worst thing you could throw at someone toxic. Maybe if I confronted them loudly enough, they’d finally understand the damage they were causing. Maybe if I explained it the right way, they’d change. Maybe if I just cared a little harder, fought a little louder, loved a little more — they’d become someone different.
But I was wrong.
Toxic people don’t respond to anger. They feed on it. They crave the emotional charge, the drama, the attention — even if it’s negative. They want to know they can still provoke you, still make you feel something, still matter enough to disrupt your peace.
What really breaks a toxic person isn’t rage.
It’s your indifference.
When you stop caring, when you stop explaining, when you stop trying to make them see, that’s when the ground beneath them starts to crumble. Suddenly, they aren’t the center of your emotional universe anymore.
They’re not even a blip on your radar.
And for someone whose survival depends on manipulating the emotions of others, that feels like death.
Toxic people need a reaction to feel powerful. Your anger validates them. Your tears feed them. Your…
