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My Wife Keeps Bringing Up the Past
and what I did about it.
Damn you Eckhart Tolle
I really enjoy watching Eckhart Tolle videos.
He often talks about being present.
The philosophy of being present helped me tremendously in my life.
I would worry less about the future, and would easily let go of the past.
But because of a mistake I made. Which I was at fault at.
My wife would never let go of the past, and kept on bringing it up every day.
I would get very frustrated and we would always fight about this.
I even suggested to my wife that she should watch Eckhart Tolle videos.
This made the fights even worse.
I would then try to explain the importance of being present to her.
This didn’t help either.
I thought there must be something wrong with my wife, she just couldn’t forgive me and always stayed in the past.
This lasted for two years.
My revelation
Recently I made a big revelation.
She told me: “You don’t have any empathy for me. I need your empathy. Not your lectures.”