Is Whitelighting The Opposite Of Gaslighting?

Does it come from a place of malice, disinterest, or nonchalance?

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In my previous article, I wrote about Gaslighting — a form of psychological abuse where the victim is manipulated with false information into questioning their sanity, reality or recollection of events — this can have a devastating effect on the victim or lead to a mental breakdown if they didn’t get help. You can read the article .

What Is Whitelighting?

Whitelighting is when you are communicating your feelings of pain or discomfort with someone and they casually wave it aside with some positive comment that makes it look like you are complaining too much. They say stuff like: ‘It wasn’t that bad.’ ‘There is so much to be grateful for.’ ‘It could have been worse, you know.’

Now, while those comments are not bad to say to people, I think it all depends on what happened to this person and how this person felt about it. In other words, it is always good to pay attention and understand the situation before you speak so that you don’t say the wrong thing and make the situation worse.

It Happened To Me!

A few months ago, I had a challenging situation. I was with a group of ladies who knew about the situation and they were sympathising with me. At one…