DON’T LET YOUR EGO WIN — IN FRIENDSHIP
My ego has always been an obstacle to having a good friendship. I lost many friends because of it. I have learned my lesson as one recent incident hit me hard.
I had one best friend, we have known each other for the last eight years. We don’t meet regularly, but we have a good bond. Recently, she relocated to another town for a job.
Everything was okay until she unfollowed me on all social media. I got hurt. I wanted to ask her the reason, but my ego stopped me, and I pretended nothing had happened.
It was her birthday.Every year i used to get excited to wish her on birthday, to tease her. This year i wished her casually as i thought she forgot me, and she replied casually. I thought she had changed after relocating. She might have made some new friends there. Inside, I wasn’t fine knowing all this. The volcano of thoughts was erupting inside me. This time i really don’t want to lose my friend because of my ego, I did her phone call, talked with her casually, and then I asked her why.
Her answer was that she was angry at me because I was too busy with my life I didn’t call or text her. She was angry that I started smoking. She was upset and sad that I wished her on her birthday too late and so casually. I was speechless.
Knowing my birthday wish still matters to her, I realized I was on the verge of losing one of my special friends. But because I let go of my ego, my friendship - my bond - survived.
It really made me emotional…
