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I’m Attracted to Emotionally Vulnerable People
Like attracts like!
“It’s not sexy to talk about your feelings. It makes you look needy and pathetic.”
Have you heard of that belief?
I felt bad at first, because I absolutely do talk about my feelings, in great detail, too.
Maybe I am needy and pathetic.
But at the end of the day, I don’t want to be with someone if I have to pretend to be calm and cool, because I’m not.
I’d even say that I’m “emotionally fragile.” Easily hurt, quick to be sad, anxious, fearful, and sometimes angry.
But I realized something.
When someone reveals their vulnerability, I find them more attractive, not less.
In fact, I feel turned off if someone seems to be totally fine. Because they don’t need my help.
I like to care for others, to comfort them and make them feel good. So emotional vulnerability from someone, draws me like a bee to honey.
Enter my fascinating high school classmate
In grade 11, I had a classmate, let’s call him Ronet. He was deeply depressed with a very low self-esteem.
