Bi-ography

Chronicles of Living a Bisexual Life

A lot has changed since I came out as bisexual. My understanding of what it means to be bisexual has broadened to be more inclusive. I’ve also started journaling to become more self-aware of my emotions and feelings. I’ve learned more about attraction and expression in the last year than in three decades. Bisexuality is more complex than I initially thought. I’ve recently started a new relationship, and my partner and I have been unpacking what it means to be bisexual and how it works in a heteronormative setting. I’ve made some shocking discoveries about my sexual orientation, identity, and my cisgender partner.

I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge in myself the potential to be attracted — romantically and/or sexually — to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, in the same way, or to the same degree. ~ Robyn Ochs.

My sexual orientation has been non-monosexual since the age of twelve. At twelve, I wanted a boyfriend but had the vaguest understanding that I couldn’t. My gender expression (not my gender identity) has always come across as non-conforming. That was also confusing. By the time I was in high school, I knew wholeheartedly I was attracted to more than one gender. Over time, I noticed that I had a specific attraction towards men and women — primarily a gender expression…