Abuse and Body Shaming Just Killed One of My Best Friends

This is not about infidelity, but it needs to be said.

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Saturday a dear friend of mine passed away. She had been feeling sick for a bit, but only gone to the hospital ten days ago.

The diagnosis was cancer.

The whole thing was so desperately unfair. But, when I think about it, her whole life was desperately unfair.

The whole world rides people who are overweight, not only because people believe it to be ugly, but because many cancers and other diseases have higher rates in the overweight and obese.

I have even known some conservatives to say, in the relative anonymity of the online sphere, that if people are fat, they deserve whatever health outcomes they get, and we should not, for example, eliminate obesity and overweight as preexisting conditions, because it’s fat people’s fault they are fat, they are too “lazy” to diet and exercise themselves thin, therefore they should pay for their own bad health outcomes and not anyone else.

What nobody stops to think about, even these very people as they support forcing women to have babies they don’t want, is the huge role adverse childhood experiences have in the development of obesity and overweight.