Transforming Pain into Power: The Hidden Journey of Twin Flames
The twin flame relationship is often one of the hardest to “heal.” Have you ever considered that if your relationship with yourself is not good, your relationship with your twin flame will also be troubled? In contrast, with ordinary romantic relationships, if someone is not right for you, you can easily change partners. But the challenge is how to change your relationship with yourself — can you ever truly leave yourself behind?
Sometimes, inner growth means undergoing a metamorphosis; we must become new versions of ourselves. This aligns with what you refer to as the “separation phase” of twin flames, also known as the “dark night of the soul.” In this process, you are experiencing a rebirth, where the new version of you sheds the past self. It’s not that you let go of the divine masculine; rather, they exist in a seemingly tangible form to help you truly understand what transformation means.
When the moment of reawakening for the divine feminine arrives, if you genuinely want to improve, you must undergo this pain, achieving a level of harmony that feels as though you are two entirely different people. This painful experience is akin to a snake shedding its skin — difficult and uncomfortable. Yet, after shedding, does the snake not attain a better life, becoming a more evolved version of itself and perceiving a larger truth of the world? Isn’t that worth celebrating?
Only those who are experiencing this process understand how challenging it is. Thus, I refrain from blindly glorifying this type of relationship or encouraging everyone to pursue a twin flame connection. I also disapprove of the mindset of quickly abandoning a partner for instant gratification, seeking a “soulmate.” I don’t believe these are the correct states to embrace.
While going through the separation phase, there is both sorrow and joy. Why discuss only one side? During this stage, it is common to feel one way or another. However, even if we say that twin flames are difficult to reconcile and that the divine masculine has many flaws that may cause heart-wrenching pain, deep down, you understand that everything is merely a prerequisite for our growth. If you didn’t truly care about him or love him, how could he possibly cause you pain?
It’s also crucial to realize that it is not him who inflicts harm upon you; it’s your self-destruction and the process of rebuilding yourself that leads to your rebirth and transformation. Remember, you are shedding your skin. What you seek is rebirth, not to become a mere shadow of your former self. Keep this in mind, and you will understand that there are no external forces at play; it’s not the divine masculine causing you pain, but your failure to love yourself.
Now, take a moment to reflect on how you can learn to love yourself better, what actions you should take, and what you should avoid. Deep down, you have a clear answer; it all depends on whether you have the courage to act on this realization and persist until one day you discover, “Oh, I have been reborn.” At that moment, you will find that the other person has also undergone their transformation, allowing you both to reunite and enjoy happiness again.
Thus, remember that all worries and fears are illusions; what you believe shapes your reality.
The universe loves you.
