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The Key to a New Mom’s Freedom Is Mysteriously Absent From the Public Eye
Why aren’t more women using breast pumps in public?
When I reached an age old enough for dating, I sensed something was amiss.
On one hand, as a female, you’re supposed to be fun and “chill” and up for a “good time.” On the other hand, you’re supposed to be innocent and “hard to get” and a “good girl” who likes horses and America too.
But being both at once is impossible.
I didn’t understand this consciously back then, but I did understand it subconsciously, somewhere deep inside: I was playing a losing game.
I’m realizing now, similarly to how being an attractive female in the 2000s was a losing game, so is being a “good mother.”
Many influencers are expressing this on Instagram which I’m happy to see. How, for example, society wants you to go back to work and be a strong independent mom. Fair point. And at the same time, it wants to see you taking care of your kid yourself and not leaving the childcare to paid help. Also fair point except for the fact that doing both at once is
But there’s one point I have yet to see expressed widely (no pun intended), specifically regarding moms who are nursing.
