Stop Actively Being an Object

We don’t even know we are, and it’s destroying us.

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The widespread objectification of women is nothing new. We rant about it, but the world is slow to change. We say crap like “she was the object of his desire.” We’re not even trying to hide it.

And while some women like it, we don’t help ourselves as a whole when we try to get noticed individually. To turn heads, most women behave in ways that make them objects.

Objectification and empowerment have blurry boundary lines. An empowered woman does whatever she wants and isn’t worried about who notices. A woman seeking objectification will do whatever it takes to achieve that goal.

Attention might feel nice, but there’s no compliment in being treated like an object.

How Did We Get Here?

I didn’t know any better until recently, but my codependent, trauma-wounded inner kid used objectification as a way to survive in the world. All my life, I’ve allowed myself to be the object in my relationships because it gave me a false sense of empowerment.

This occurred mostly in my romantic relationships, but my earliest childhood memories of males include objectification, too. Even little boys seem to know this hierarchy is in place. The system trains us all to…