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Orgasms After Prostate Surgery
Many of my clients have had prostate surgery and I can tell you about their orgasms and sex life
I long ago lost count of how many men I’ve seen who’ve had a prostatectomy, and I’m here to reassure you that it doesn’t mean the end of your sex life.
Receiving a diagnosis and going for surgery is always traumatic, and it is only natural to wonder and worry about how things will be after the op.
I have seen men shortly before and soon after the removal of their prostates — those men are worried, anxious, and emotional, which is to be expected.
When it comes to sex — which is such a wonderful aspect of life — there is a reason to worry about losing it completely.
- We don’t want our sexual potency to end or change.
- We are naturally worried about not being able to enjoy one of life’s great pleasures.
- We’re afraid of becoming miserable and frustrated.
- We’re concerned there will be no purpose to life.
What To Expect After Your Prostate Surgery
You can look up what the doctors say about erections and orgasms after prostate surgery, but I can tell you from hands-on experience:
men who’ve had their prostates removed still have a sex life.
Things might not be like they used to be
But really, who expects their sex life in later life to be the same as it was in their teens and twenties?
There are a few things that are fairly typical for men regardless of their prostates:
- declining sex drive — you might be happy with twice a week instead of twice a day!
- weaker erections — it happens, but it’s a subject I’ll write about on a different day.
What You Can Expect After Prostate Surgery
Firstly — big caviate — don’t listen to me or anyone else, get information from your clinical team about YOUR procedure. Not all men are the same and not all surgery is the same.
I have seen many men after their surgery. They aren’t all the same so I want to tell you about a few different types of experiences.
The Erection Myth
A surprisingly large number of men who visit me think they can’t get erections, therefore, they won’t be able to orgasm. They just hope to have a nice time with me and wonder what I can do for them.
I can dispell the myth that you need an erection to have an orgasm, and I wrote about that once before:
Many of my clients are genunely amazed to discover they can have an orgasm without getting an erection. We don’t even need to discuss the absence of jizz and the fact that we save on tissues — see, there’s a bonus.
Of course, you probably love the sight of an erection and feel of it in your hand, the visuals of the ejaculation. None of these things are essential for an orgasm, but they still turn you on — it’s all in your mind!
What turns us on is a combination of things — the stimulation of our senses- sight, touch, smell, taste. What goes on in your mind just might be the most important thing of all.
Think positive. You have entered a new phase in your life so open up to new experiences on this adventure.
After a while, erections might be achieved again. Don’t give up on the possibility. But also, don’t assume that sex must be rubbish without a hard penis.
My clients don’t always orgasm, but many do even though they don’t think it is possible. I have noticed what is in their mind is often key. I assure them there is plenty of time and no pressure. I help them relax. It’s more likely to happen if it doesn’t feel forced and if you are free to let your mind do its work.
Full-Body Orgasms
I do find most men are very penis focused — they think it all happens there, which is OK, it makes them happy.
I think they may be missing out.
There is so much more potential for full-body orgasms and stimulating erogenous zones you never knew you had, whether they are your toes or, your nipples, or your neck. Many of my clients are amazed to discover these things. However, some of my clients are too closed-minded to open up to their full-body potential , and perhaps this is not something they can experience. *Do you want me to write about “tantric” & full body sex?*
If you can get over the thought of sexual pleasure being a genital thing, then it opens up more possibilities. But if you want to stick with a genital focus, that’s fine. Your genitals will still be there for fun after prostate surgery.
