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Learning How to Live Without My Affair Partner
My life goes on
I reached a crossroads. The crown of An Adulteress Extraordinaire grew too heavy for my brow. I called down the heavens and scorched the earth with my displeasure with his spouse. I am a wife no more. The single life beckoned me.
Yet, I wasn’t alone. I spent the last few years in an affair with a beautiful, giving, and warm man. While going through my divorce, he was my rock. We spent long nights and fun days discussing our here and now without future promises. He held me through tears and joy and helped me feel the beauty within. I owe much to him.
Yet, I walked away from him.
Twice. Yes, I’m not proud of that. The first time was out of fear and confusion. He and I are on a similar journey, trying to find what we each need. I reached a milestone and passed it. Divorce is a significant step, and I thought we were both on the same page.
Turns out we weren’t.
His began with counseling for them both to see if there was anything worth saving. That news threw me. Before this, there wasn’t much left to save. It seemed black and white. Ah, the things that you want to hear in a relationship.
Couples therapy was a hard line for me, one I didn’t want to cross, so I said goodbye and walked away. I…
