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The Healing Power of Forgiveness
Why is it more difficult to carry around all your anger than to forgive?
First things first! Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what happened is undone. This has nothing to do with sitting with your biggest offender at the coffee table and chatting. Sometimes, this is possible when you forgive someone, but it is unnecessary. With that out of the way, we can begin.
We have all been in hurtful situations that caused us suffering. Maybe a hurtful breakup, being bullied at school, or parents who seemed uncaring. I guess you already have a clue what I am talking about. Do you remember a hurtful situation at school? How many years ago did this happen? 10, 20, 30, or even more? Remembering this situation is like time travel to the past. Immediately, you are right back in the situation, and feelings resurface. Maybe you are already thinking, "Why did he remind me of this situation?"
Let me explain. No matter how long ago a situation occurred in your past that hurt you, if it's not healed, it sticks with you for life. The feelings remain with you, showing up whenever you are triggered by similar situations.
This is a good thing because every trigger is a sign indicating that something is wrong. When you are triggered, your response is driven by unhealed emotions.
