Learning to Say No Changed My Life

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One day, I got up and again, found myself with my arm to the reach to grab my phone. It stopped over the Instagram logo, and I kind of thought about it for a while. I didn’t open it. In that moment, I started to understand something really important: I was no longer who I used to be. My time was wasted with the likes, the anxiety about not seeing the pictures, and the never-ending hole of scrolling through the feed. But it was then that a light bulb switched on: “What about if I give up?” So, I made the decision to quit Instagram for one month. This 30-day challenge resulted in my being a mental cleanse, a shift from denial to consciousness, and most importantly a journey to my own true voice.
The problem was far from being solved yet, the more time went by, the more I also observed something about my life that was not related to social networks. Everything and every person, I was always the one to say “Yes” to, all the time. I was living the cycle of being nice, putting their expectations above my comfort. Every next “Yes” was leading to my exhaustion one more step down the road.
The very moment I changed my attitude and started saying “No,” the whole world turned the other way around. I realized that saying “No” was not a sign of me being selfish, but it was actually the thing that was boosting my power to protect my own energy and time. It’s not just that, something unexpected also took place in this…