Do Narcissists Know They Are Abusive?
Do narcissists know they’re abusive? Spoiler: Yes. Your pain is their trophy, and change isn’t on their agenda. Here’s the brutal truth behind their behavior.
Let’s talk about narcissists, those dazzling creatures who believe the world revolves around them — literally. They treat everyone else like extras in their personal reality show, where they’re always the star, and the script is written solely for their benefit. Now, before you write them off as entirely hopeless, let’s address the burning question: Are they capable of change?
Believe it or not, even those high on the narcissism spectrum have the opportunity for a personality makeover. Sure, it’s tough, but it is NOT impossible.
The First Step to Solving any Problem
The first step to solving any problem is admitting you have one. In the narcissist’s case, it’s admitting they’re hooked — not to drugs, but to people.
Narcissists live off using others to boost their fragile egos and keep their false personas on life support. It’s like they’re running a Ponzi scheme, but instead of money, they are constantly scamming for emotional payouts.
Yes, they know they have issues. Yes, they know they’re abusive. They lie to others and themselves, but deep down, they’re aware they’re not exactly Mother Teresa. They’re more like the evil twin of Mother Teresa who steals cookies from orphans and then blames the orphans for hiding them.
The Unvarnished Truth about Narcissists
Let’s be brutally honest: Narcissists are capable of change. They just don’t want to.
Why bother with self-improvement when manipulation provides a quick and easy route to getting their needs met? It’s far simpler to deceive people and blame a tough childhood — or some other sob story — than to face the mirror and realize they’re not just the villain in their own life story, but in plenty of others.
Self-improvement is HARD work. But manipulating and deceiving people? That’s easy, highly effective, and provides a potent cocktail of rewards: a (false) sense of self-esteem, financial gain, sexual gratification, free labor and services, emotional regulation, and a twisted sense of power and control.
They know they’re hurting you. That’s the point. Your tears are trophies, evidence of their manipulative prowess. They revel in their ability to play with your emotions like a puppet master, pulling your strings and watching you dance to their tune. They see their abusive behavior; they also see your obliviousness to its calculated nature.
At the end of the day, the rewards of abusing people are simply too many for an abuser to change.
The Narcissist’s Motto:
“Why strive to be a decent human when being a jerk works just fine?”
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