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Five Reasons My 30s Are Better Than My 20s: A Queer Perspective on Aging
It gets better
It’s important to accept that we age and the role aging has in bringing wisdom, healing, and gratitude.
There are many reasons aging is a difficult topic for queer people, which is why we need to share our experiences.
While the passing of time can be our greatest healer, I have found watching others live authentically and confidently to be just as healing.
Our perspective is important. Now that I have reached my thirties, I can confidently say that they are better than my twenties. There are several reasons for this. Let’s get to the good part then!
1. More authentic at thirty-two than twenty-two
Ten years ago this August, I married one of my best friends, but it was based on a lie. As an “ex-gay”, I was indoctrinated and convinced that my sexuality could change if I prayed, fasted, or worshipped enough.
I have come to accept myself as the mixed bag of identities and experiences that I am. Although my preferences and desires have changed throughout my life, I have always been gay/queer and I always will be.
