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Boyfriend for a Day: The Joys and Perils of Gay Open-Relationship Dating
Sometimes, the anticipation of a moment is worth it all. But after it happens, then what?
When the message popped up on my dating app, the attraction was immediate. He was tall and stocky with a square jaw framed by a dark beard with flecks of silver. He had eyes as blue as ice on fire.
His attraction to me seemed just as strong. We started texting, and it was evident that we really wanted to meet each other. Then I re-read his profile, which clearly stated one thing: Open relationship.
I asked him about it, and he stated there would be no chance of anything more serious. If we met, it would also be his first time doing this in years.
If you’ve been on a gay dating app lately, you’ll know that there are almost more men in open relationships than closed ones. Since my last boyfriend and now, something definitely has shifted in the dating landscape.
When I was younger, an open relationship never really felt like an option. Maybe it was because most of my relationships didn’t last too long. I also used to think that an open relationship was an excuse—that it was for couples who weren’t still in love with each other but were too afraid to lose the security of their…
