life lessons | love | relationships

10 Life Lessons I Learned From My Recent Breakup

Because sometimes love just isn’t enough

Photo by on Pexels

Not a Medium member? Read the full story here.

1. Love needs participation
   One person cannot carry a connection on their back while the other sits in the silence of their own avoidance.
2. Avoidance is a choice
   He chose not to respond. He decided to walk away. He said ghosting was his way of “breaking a pattern,” but avoidance isn’t breaking anything but it’s reinforcing it.
3. The harder I tried, the worse I felt
   I kept thinking maybe if I worded it better, or gave him more time, or understood him more, he’d come around. But I was bending over backwards for someone who wasn’t even reaching out a hand.
4. When people want to leave, let them
   You don’t have to fight to prove your worth to someone who’s already made up their mind to walk away. If they can’t see your heart when it’s wide open, they don’t deserve to hold it.
5. Caring deeply isn’t a weakness
   I used to feel embarrassed about how much I cared. But honestly? I’m proud of it. I was honest. I showed up. I tried. I didn’t hide or play games. That’s not weakness. That’s a strength.
6. Hope can be heavy
   I held onto hope for…