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Motherhood: A Journey Beyond Comparison.
Amid perfect images both online and in our mind, motherhood can feel like a battle of ‘not enough.’ But the truth? Our love Is Enough.
Motherhood (and parenthood, because fathers aren’t immune) is often a battleground of comparison. We measure ourselves against the idyllic portrayals on social media, in movies, and even in fleeting glimpses of other parents at the park or social events. These moments — just a tiny snapshot of someone else’s life — can quickly become standards we hold ourselves to, contrasting their highlights with what we perceive as our shortcomings. But perhaps the toughest comparison is with an idealized version of ourselves, created long before we truly knew what motherhood would entail.
The “Perfect Mother” Illusion:
Before I became a mum, I envisioned a version of myself that seemed practically invincible: calm, patient, effortlessly balancing work, family, and even self-care. I was sure my strengths would only amplify once I became a mum. I dreamt of being the “perfect mum,” inspired by pieces of people I knew or had seen, stories I had read, and ideals I had stitched together in my mind. I spent a lot of time with other people’s children, was always the “Favourite”, and was absolutely…
