Do You Keep Things From Your Loving Mom?

Love and boundaries need not conflict, for my personal growth

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For almost a year now, I have been pursuing my dreams — and my mom does not know.

Perhaps it is wrong to say she is ignorant. She has an uncanny intuition — the sixth sense wielded by loving mothers — and knows I am doing something behind her back.

I just have not told her anything, so she can only guess.

The only family members who know are my spouse and cousin. My close friends know. Even my mentors whom I meet infrequently know, and they are around my mother’s age. They have been unanimously supportive.

Sometimes, it feels like I am leading a secret life, especially when I love my mom and would prefer confiding in her like a best friend.

However, there are good reasons why I do not tell her everything.

I know I will be judged, so I choose to draw boundaries

My dreams are linked to the creative arts: writing and singing. While I have no intention to make a living from singing, I have a vision for my writing and am planting seeds.

I would belt from the heart as a child. Decades ago, when I was singing loudly, my mom dashed to my room…