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Molestation
Why Am I So Angry?
Is anger a learned behavior?
I know this is going to be difficult to write. I’m already exhausted and when I’m finished, I will be even more exhausted, but I will feel better because I’m writing about it.
A personality test I took once described me as melancholy and analytical. That sounds about right. I’m more introverted than extroverted, but I also take the lead in many situations. I guess I like to be in control.
They say this is a characteristic of children who have been sexually abused as children, but I also grew up with an angry mother.
My mom was always angry and sad.
When I was a child what I remember most about my mom is that she was angry and sad. I didn’t know it then, but I think she suffered from depression and bipolar disorder.
My mom certainly had a lot to be depressed about, so I don’t blame her. It actually breaks my heart. My dad left her when I was 7 and she had just lost a baby. She was either crying or cussing constantly.
As a child, I felt awful seeing my mom crying in her bed. I wanted so badly for her to be happy and I think this is where I developed my “people pleaser” trait. I also felt frightened when she was angry. She seemed unhinged at times…
