You’re Never Late in Life, Not even On Instagram, Twitter, or YouTube
Follow these 3 ways to save you from social distraction
The world had already mastered Instagram by the time I joined last year.
I thought, “Once again- I’m too late.”
Besides promoting my first book, I followed authors, reviewers, influencers, meme creators, digital dancers, bloggers, and a few wannabes.
All had more than thousands of followers. Some had several million. Such people were making good money from their network.
And there’s also a credibility-show game. I had a heart attack when a bunch of teenagers and 20-somethings made a video revealing their 6 figure income.
My education looked fake to me. I thought, what am I doing with my life?
But, my friend added new perspectives to my thinking.
He said:
You are well on time.
You didn’t need followers before. When you were 15, social media was not in vogue. How can you’ve followers at 20?
And when you want to be on social media, create your digital identity, build a side hustle — you’re in there.
When Instagram, Twitter, or LinkedIn were babies, you were crafting your life. Getting that stability in life was your priority. You won awards.
Back then, you didn’t need social media. You were happy anyway.
He continued —
Let us take another example-
- Do you know when engineering began?
In BCE
- Do you think you are late in becoming an engineer?
“I had no answer. I didn’t know what to say.”
- No. You weren’t born. You can’t be late
People think they’re late, if
- they get married at 40,
- their first child is born at 45
- they graduate from college at 25.
- they want to do adventure sports at 60.
- they want to start their business at 40
- they want to have 90% investment in equity, at 50.
But nobody tells a centenarian that he is dying too late.
How You End up Sympathizing Yourself
People waste time in blaming themselves and don’t even start.
It is like ignoring a half bucket of water.
It is simple — If you were happy earlier in your life; you are on time.
When someone relates their experience about how they were a hero at that age, you realize you’re late, and tell you — how you can also change your life, too, if you do it?
Maybe it’s their good wishes. They want to help you. They wish you to get the same benefit they had.
But you twist it and think — your life is meaningless, and you forget to be happy for them.
You ask yourself, “How will you reach the same heights as a few people already have?”
Instead, ask these below questions-
1) Can the other person have what you’ve today?
2) Can he/she attain your knowledge of
- how to crack jokes,
- how well you’re at your job,
- how you work out regularly,
- how you’ve a good athletic body,
- how you lead a stable life where you’ve enough time for yourself and your family.
- how you go to the movies every weekend,
- how you visit your parents,
- how you receive guests,
- how you walk with your children.
No, they can’t do that. And you can’t do what they did? Everyone’s life and experiences are different. They’re incomparable.
On seeing other people, we think our life. If we don’t see their success, will we say that we’re not on time.?
No. We wouldn’t say that.
Being early and being late are relative. Don’t strive for something that’s relative. Strive for the absolute. Strive for what you need, not what others want you to need.
Strive for your growth. Your past is your only reference.
When you think it’s the right time to do something — it is the right time.
But, it’s hard to not get distracted by other people’s successes when you’re just starting out.
Of course, you’re not too late, but you’ve to prepare to not to feel sorry and patronize yourself .
Follow These 3 Ways to Save You from Social Distraction
1) Think about the last success you achieved and are proud of. Maybe you helped your wife or husband get what they wanted. That’s your success, too. Maybe you gave your kids or parents a good time. That’s your success.
2) Don’t make your success dependent on the money you make. Of course, money gives freedom to do things, but money is not the only parameter of measuring success. Money has a threshold value, if you cross it, no matter how much you earn, your happiness won’t increase.
3) Are you already living a peaceful life. Do you’ve food, a place to live (renting is great too), a job or business, friends, relatives to talk to, a community, regular vacations, internet, access to education?
If the answer is yes, you already have a peaceful life.
Having challenges doesn’t mean your life isn’t peaceful. You’re lucky if you’ve challenges. It means you are doing better every day. Life is about growing from the challenges of everyday life.
The only thing you can’t control is your birth, the time and the family you were born in. If you’re born into a poor family and doing well, then you’ve already achieved more than a rich person.
A rich person has very little to accomplish in life. A rich person has few reasons to be happy.
If you didn’t have money when you were born, that’s good because it gives you a chance to be happy in your life.
Summary
Finally, never think that you’re late, you’re always on time.
Money is no criteria for success. After a threshold value, money is not proportional to happiness.
Don’t get jealous, cherish your well-wishers.
If you have a peaceful life, you are already going well on time.
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