What I Do To Unblock Forgiveness

When it’s so hard to forgive at times

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We often hear how we have to forgive the other person for our own sake.

That resentment is like drinking poison and wishing the other person to die.

While this all seemed logical, it often backfires and worsens the hurt and resentment, simply because we’d feel even more wronged. After all, why would you be the one being told what more you need to do, when you feel that the other person should be the one doing something?

I personally dislike it whenever I hear it. It felt like adding more salt to the wound. And then it’s not like we don’t want to heal, it’s just we often don’t know how.

A big problem is that we often have difficulty honoring negative and difficult feelings, so we simply want to bypass or remove suffering as fast as we can.

Such feelings are like unwelcomed guests in our house. We don’t really want to sit with them, look at them, and we are so impatient with them.

Not only do they hurt us and trash our beautiful home, but we are also sometimes made to feel ashamed for having them in our house.

However, they are not the bad guy. They are there because they have something to tell us.

Anger and resentment are…