I Spent 5 Years With Someone Who Couldn’t Commit — Here’s What I Learned

My story of love, denial, and finally, self-discovery

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Having spent five years with someone who was unable to commit was a process of hope, heartache, and hard-learned lessons.

I persisted, thinking that things would improve, that love would be sufficient. But eventually, the pressure of not knowing started to erode my sense of self-worth.

Reflecting on it now, those five years were the best lessons I could have learned about myself — about boundaries, self-respect, and the type of love I am worthy of receiving.

If you’ve ever been stuck in a relationship in which commitment seemed just out of reach, then my story could be your own. Here’s what I gained from loving someone who wouldn’t love me all the way.

I Confused Consistency with Love

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For years, I confused consistency with love. She was there, physically, but not emotionally.

Her reliability indicated she cared. We’d talk now and then, hang out, and laugh together, but when it came to making…