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I Distance Myself From My Thoughts and You Should Too
Here’s why
I don’t know what to do.
Many times, I am absolutely clueless on how to move forward in my life.
Somehow, I came across a trick that makes this easier. I learned how to distance myself from my thoughts and get a clear picture on what to do next.
Solomon’s Paradox
You ever think what a friend is doing is stupid? I do sometimes, and it drives me crazy the way they behave. The solution is obvious to me, what they need to do is clear. Yet they do the exact opposite. Little did I know, I behave the same way as my friends.
It’s always obvious to us what other people need to do. But, for us it’s different. To us, our problems seem unique. Our problems aren’t the same as others and it needs a special solution.
Does this sound stupid? Of course it does.
This idea even has a name, called “Solomon’s Paradox”. Solomon’s Paradox is the notion that we can reason effectively about other people’s problems rather than our own.
Why can we reason effectively about our friend’s problems and not our own?
It’s because we are not part of their problem.
