How I Stopped Taking It Personally When He Didn’t Text Me Back

What I’m learning about emotional triggers, self-worth, and not chasing closure

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Something About Him Felt So Familiar

I had a date recently.

He came over to my place, and the moment I saw him, I felt something. He was warm, soft, kind. His body, his energy, the way we cuddled — it all felt so good. So safe. So right.

We kissed, played around, held each other. It felt special. But when we tried to get more physical, things didn’t really work. He lost his arousal a couple of times, and even though he told me it takes time for him to feel that kind of connection, I still started to doubt myself.

I wondered: Was it me? Was I not attractive enough? Did I do something wrong?

The Silence That Followed

The next morning, I waited for a message.

Something small. A “thank you,” a “had a great time,” anything. But there was nothing. And that silence hit harder than I expected. It made me feel like I’d imagined the connection we shared. Like maybe it didn’t mean anything to him.

To make it more confusing, he reminded me so much of my ex. The way he touched me, the way we kissed — everything felt…