A few weeks ago, I found myself saying ‘yes’ to a task that I didn’t have time for, and before I knew it, I was drowning in stress!
Today, I was asked by my manager something similar again, but I clearly said “no” (professionally, of course!) and explained to him (in technical jargon) that I am paid for 9 hours, not 24. 😒
For some people, saying no is a gigantic task, and it takes preparation to find excuses or reasons so that the other person doesn’t get hurt or offended.(Introverts know this way too well!🥺)
If this sounds relatable to you, then remember that saying yes in difficult situations can result in even bigger hardships in the future.
Here are some helpful tips for saying no to tough situations while still being respectful to the other person.
- Explain your situation gently: The first and most important part of setting boundaries is explaining the “why”.
Tell and communicate clearly about your feelings for the situation and that it's in the best interest of both parties that you don't bite more than you can chew.
The key here is being humble, kind, and gentle in the conversation.
- Stay firm in setting boundaries: Boundaries are like the walls that protect us from poor mental health, burnout, and resentment.
Make your decision and stick with it.
Please remember,
Your decisions + Your actions = Your life.
If you don't set firm boundaries, you're bound to get overburnt again and again.
- Be self-aware:
Always analyse your words, actions, and decisions. Recognise when you’re overextending yourself.
You're a human, not a robot.
You will end up hurting your health if you don't make good decisions.
Don't feel guilty if you made the right decision, and don't feel shame in saying no when it's the right thing to do.
Pro tip: Meditate just after waking up and make important decisions in the morning when you have a fresh mind.
If you forget this list 🤔 and don’t find the reason/words/right response for the situation instantly, then tell the other person that you need some time to consider the opportunity and will get back to them after some time. Consider the pros and cons of the situation and make up your decision after thoroughly and thoughtfully assessing your situation.
I hope you find this article helpful 🤗
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~ Isha
