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You don’t owe your parents anything, anything at all
Thoughts on guilt-tripping on a Friday morning
You don’t owe your parents anything, anything at all. Let me show you what I mean.
Even if they are the best parents in the world, you still don't owe them anything. Your parents chose to have you. Therefore, it’s their responsibility to raise you as best as they possibly can and be the best parents as they possibly can.
What’s going on when you have parents on one side, who are guilt-tripping extraordinaires?
They go to their kids, saying, “Why don’t you appreciate me enough? Do you know how much I sacrificed for you?” These are going to crush their kids. They think they would be able to get love from their kids by making their kids indebted. These are emotional hooks that get deeply ingrained into you, causing a lifetime pattern of self-doubt and insecurity.
If you don’t address this guilt tripping, this will keep showing in your life until you process it. You will second-guess yourself all the time, in everything that you do, until you start overcoming the anxiety you’ve always felt due to self-questioning and low self-esteem.
On the other side, you have parents who have never uttered any of those sentences in their entire lives.
