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The Day You Start to Believe It Will Stop Hurting
It’s coming sooner than you expect. Here’s how you’ll know.
“No one dies from love; I guess I’ll be the first.”
That lyric from Tove Lo kept swimming around my head after I first heard it. It perfectly captures a cruel truth about romantic love: we all confidently assure our friends that their heartbreak will heal in time, and yet when we’re the heartbroken ones, we remain convinced it won’t. We are certain we will be the first to die from love.
It’s easy to lose all perspective when we’re in pain after a breakup or some other form of rejection from someone we love. Even time takes on a new meaning — weeks can feel like months or years. The emotional hole we fall into can be so deep that the idea it will ever stop hurting seems impossible.
But there will come a day when you start to believe that it will stop eventually. The arrival of this day doesn’t mean you’re out of the woods, and I’m sorry to report that there is more pain and agonizingly slow healing ahead. But after days and days and days of hurting most or all of the time, you will finally have a day where you are shocked to discover that it hurts a tiny bit less.
You might at first think you’ve forgotten something important, and after making sure you have your…
