Learning to Tolerate Your Imperfections

Instead of being what others want to see.

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I hate being called a failure.

I made excuses when my family called me out on my laziness. Pointing out obstacles that prevented me from excelling while announcing my ambitious plans. It’s all BS.

But that’s what happens in the face of insecurity. We do one or the combination of three things: deny, hide, or compensate. All forms of avoiding. It leads to self-rejection, which becomes self-hate, ultimately turning into low self-esteem.

Imperfect is perfect

Self-improvement is a paradox.

Our flaws make us feel inferior. Yet the attempt to change creates even more anxiety. Because trying to fix ourselves signifies that there’s something inherently wrong with us.

Think about your inner demons. For me, it’s peaking in people’s fabulous lives on social media. As fake as it may be, it tortures me. For you, it could be your weight. Perhaps it’s your singing voice. Maybe it’s the lower entry job you’re temporarily surviving with. You avoid bringing them up in a conversation. The resistance and the shame you carry causes even more pain.

On top of that, you tend to control and worry. They give an illusion that you’re doing…