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How to Love a Man in 2025
The future of male-female relationships.
Last year I wrote How to Love a Man in 2024: Or rather, how to ‘hate men’ a little better.
The piece examined women’s collective rage towards men and their inability to be the partners we desire. I discussed how patriarchy robs men of genuine love, giving them an illusion of wellbeing and success that is so far removed from real truth and goodness. They do not engage with the beauty of life with women, but rather, they use women to fill the rotting hole inside themselves.
While this article resonated within me at the time, there is an essential piece to this conversation that I failed to articulate. You’re going to have to lend me a bit of trust as I state the following:
Men will not be able to heal from patriarchy on their own.
I hope you feel some level of resistance to this statement, because initially it doesn’t sound hopeful — nor does it sound very empowering — especially for women. But I would like to passionately argue the opposite.
Men traumatized themselves.
Men have completely fucked this all up for everyone involved, including themselves. To exert power and control over women, to neglect the health of women, to insecurely need the approval of other men…
