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Dear Women: How to Stop Being The One Doing Most, If Not All, House Chores
What it takes to change this dynamic.
“Love is more than just being together! ”— said my ex-mother-in-law, rephrased by my ex-husband, and aproximately quoted now by me
Years ago, I was told something like that when I refused to iron my then-boyfriend’s shirts.
We were not married then, but we just started to live together.
His mother was probably exemplary in her generation and culture: the wife and mother who did everything at home, and the professional woman who worked.
I, on the other hand, was a woman who just started her IT career and was up for something more equal.
I loved him. Even so, I rebelled against doing something just because I was expected to and not because it was from my heart.
And what happened, was that I was still loved. And sometime later, we outsourced that task to a professional ironing lady.
I didn’t have many relationships in life, but in all of them, I could never be in a position where I would be responsible for most or all the house chores.
