love & politics & technology

Gentle Reader: this is one of those pieces where ya write the title first, and then ya see what comes out the fountain pen. Love, Politics, & Technology … I mean, shoot for the moon, land on the roof, amirite?

Love

What do I know about love? Less than any good 3-minute hit song on the topic, I assure you. I’m not being modest, it is what it is: I definitely can’t do better than a song about love that millions of people love.

But I know what I know about love, and I do think that I’ve learned something recently. I’ve had many decades of failure — generations, in fact — followed by solid success. I’ve learned something that may be helpful to other people, so now I feel like I’m obligated to write it down ….

Ok, now I’ve judo’d myself into feeling like this is a good thing, instead of being embarrassed about trying.

So here goes: for me, the key to love is that when I don’t have the love I need, my coping behavior is to think about it. I’m not saying I always come up with a solution — that is verifiably untrue! I’m saying that obsessive thinking is the brick that remains in my wall of cope, even today.

Over a very long and difficult period of struggle, I’ve eliminated the self-destructive copes I had, and they were a-plenty. Don’t get me wrong, I’m no California…