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WOE-MAN: PART I
Why I Don’t Appreciate a Guy Dropping Me Home, or Judge if He Doesn’t
Rethinking women being helpless and being helped
It is nighttime. I am on my first date with this guy and all we owe each other is nothing other than basic courtesies. While departing for our homes, I am not sure if he should drop me off at my place or not. Would I like it if he did that? Yes. Do I need it? Um… this time, yes, because it’s dark and this road looks isolated. Guess what! He did offer to walk me to my place, but I dismissed the idea even though I needed it desperately. He insisted and ended up dropping me by. I thanked him ‘casually’ for his kind gesture, without revealing how much it meant to me. We then waved goodbye to each other and he soon disappeared into another dark alley I would never dare to walk alone into.
If my behavior seemed hesitant and irrational, there is more to the story. It’s not as simple as it might appear…
Why must women fear?
He is walking me home because it’s unsafe for women at night out there — is that what you are thinking? I am saving you from the numbers by not discussing whether women are more threatened than men or not. I want to discuss whether men are as mentally frightened as women are.
