There Is A Rape Problem With Kissing

Girls just want to have fun, and boys don’t always understand.

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Kissing before being crushed

Women, especially young women fantasize about kissing. You can have a big crush on someone. You kiss your teddy bear, pretending Teddy is your crush. You practice on the mirror. You giggle with your besties.

You experiment with lipstick and gloss, you purse your lips. You smack them together in videos, or selfies. Girls goof around with giddiness.

Then comes the big day. One, or both of you, move in for the clinch. You might be in bliss. But you are anxious, excited, and turned on.

There are butterflies in your stomach, brain, and private parts.

But there is a big problem. Rape.

Men have traditionally had the idea that the enjoyment of kissing, itself, is some kind of consent to go further.

This is rampant is rape culture. We live in a a rape culture, where sadly, boys learn that if you are sexually attracted to someone the male should “be the man” and push onward. The girls also may feel this, a strange mix of “it’s out of my hands, I am not the slut!, and/or “I have to be the gatekeeper and slam the steel gate on this girl cage.”