My Brother’s Becoming a Violent Misogynist. What Can I Do?

He is isolating himself from friends because he thinks that they are not ‘manly’ enough.

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DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I found you through a series of posts on social media, and I feel like you might be able to help me with my problem. I’m really concerned about my 13 year old brother (A)’s recent behavior, and I hope you can tell me what I can do about it.

A’s always been a pain, but he was mostly a good guy. He was a little awkward, especially once he hit puberty, but we all thought he’d grow out of it as he got older. Lately, however, A has been making derogatory comments about women, referring to them in really offensive ways and saying that they shouldn’t be allowed to vote or have jobs. Normally I would write this off as his trying to be edgy and shocking, especially online, except he’s not confining it to his online behavior. He’s become increasingly hostile towards girls, he’s always talking about how to control and manipulate them and he gets insulting, aggressive and angry when people refuse to comply with his requests. I’ve noticed that he has become more aggressive in his behavior towards women, making them feel uncomfortable and violated. This has led to him getting detention because he told one of his teachers to…