2 Things Hurt People Do That Hurt People Without Actually Realizing

Why they might be blind to it.

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Growing up in an emotionally volatile environment, I developed a heightened sensitivity and carefulness toward certain negative emotions people around me might experience in the moment.

Hurt people hurt people. As I began to see the depth of the pain of people who often hurt and take from others, I began to understand why they do what they do.

Often, they come from a place of being hurt, neglected or abused in the past. As they learn how to cope with what happened, they develop unhealthy patterns out of survival and not knowing better.

This is not an excuse to tolerate hurtful behaviors from anyone. However, by understanding where they come from, we can begin to heal and understand that such behaviors are also not our fault.

#1 — hurt people focus on themselves much more because they are in pain

Years ago, I came across an article where the author shared how toxic people often seem to be mostly about themselves, but they do so because they are depressed.

“Narcissism” is a very common label, often used to label those who seem to focus mostly on themselves while not caring about how…