Social rejection is not your fault

A Broads Non Grata prompt

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You don’t own your friends. You cannot control where they go, what they do, nor who they deal with. There are some people who scour for greater networks, amassing an army of friends whom they keep solely to themselves (quite selfishly, if you ask me). They would be aggressive in getting their direct contact through you, and before you know it, you are out of the picture, and are only called upon when needed. This treachery leaves you feeling utterly rejected. You feel like a used rag. You lose faith in humanity.

But, it’s not entirely how you see it to be. Here’s how to lighten up if you feel that your friends have cast you aside.

Let go of control

Personally, I do not wish to control who my friends interact with, or to what degree they are bonding with others in my circle (we’re not in high school anymore). The moment you lay claim on someone you will be refuted. Many people, myself included, hesitate when mixing or merging different circles of friends. There is an inexcusable fear of being left out once new bonds form among them. You cannot control social dynamics, and you shouldn’t even try to.

Over the years, I’ve seen this phenomenon happen where some cases ended tragically. I’ve since matured (a bit more) and learned the…