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6 Signs That You Are Living Somebody Else’s Life
How to understand what is it you want from life
The expression “living someone else’s life” is not a psychological term, yet we intuitively understand what it means. Usually, it means that a person does not follow their desires and goals but tries to fulfill a particular average life scenario, “written” for them by other people. More often than not, it is our family’s scenario, although we sometimes use the scenarios that are offered to us by social media, films, and popular culture.
Let’s figure out how to understand that you live someone else’s life — and what you can do about it.
#1 You Feel an Unbearable Need to Criticize Other People’s Lives
You are wildly annoyed by a former classmate who got married in her twenties and is birthing children like it’s her job: “Well, why did she go to university? She just buried herself in diapers”! Or a careerist friend who is “obsessed” with her projects: “She is wasting her life in front of the computer! She just sits in her office all day”. Or a freelancer friend who has been “messing around” in Thailand for the third month in a row.
Irritation often hides envy, and envy is a sense of one’s own unfulfillment and confusion. It does not…
