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Narcs can Mimic Anything including a Sense of Security
This is my response to an excellent Medium piece here:http://jeetwincasinos.com/scribble-dibdoo/how-narcissists-create-a-false-sense-of-security-in-their-victims-e86ae33e6d53
Building and maintaining long term secure relationships is only possible through connection and conversation.
IMO on a daily basis, face to face.
To be heard and feel known, to understand and be understood by your partner, that creates security. When you move toward security in your relationship you are telling your partner by your words and actions that you care about them and don’t want them to feel alone. Building security is about being responsive to your partner in ways that make them feel validated and understood. This goes for all relationships. Mother Infant. Father Son. Boss Employee. Best Girlfriend.
Very few of us have secure long term relationships. This is because what I just described above are prerequisites to genuine relationships and they are not being taken seriously and practiced today. People today do not have the skill set to accumulate these necessary, prerequisite tools for secure long term relationships. They don’t know how to collect these tools and use them for a better relationship.
