Finally Telling My Ex Wife’s Attorney How I Feel About Him

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5 years ago is when our divorce started. We both hired attorneys then fired them after six months. Then we retained some new ones. Lets spend some money $$$$.

The loss of genuine dialog between her and me of any kind stopped way before that, but you keep thinking “This will change” “It will get better” “Its just a long rough patch” but it never changes. It just gets worse and you SEE its getting worse and THEN instead of telling yourself it will get better you start to lie to yourself.

When you lie to yourself or other people you corrupt the very mechanisms that give your life meaning.

So divorce is that period of time when you life stops having meaning.

The longer the divorce the less meaning your life is going to have.

It was not new territory having been divorced before, but no divorce is going to be the same as the last. What I knew as an “amicable divorce” was not going to be anything like this one. Amicable was lost before any papers were filed.

It was NOT going to be friendly, cooperative, hopeful, reasonable or “in good faith” kind of divorce. You don’t know that in the beginning, but it becomes pretty clear. And remember how you talk or didn’t talk in your marriage? It is exactly how you are going to talk or…