They say to love your enemies—here’s why.
There were a few categories of people I used to despise; people that behaved in ways that I believed were bad or wrong without putting much thought into why I felt that way—I just did.
Fuck-boys were definitely one of them.
And after getting into relationship and falling in ‘love’ with one (okay, a few)— which was how I learned the term ‘fuck-boys’ even existed—those loves easily eroded into hatred.
Nothing turns to hate so bitter as once was love. — Laurell K. Hamilton
Hate, though, is an interesting emotion. It repulses, yet repulsion simultaneously attracts. I like to call the dynamics of our attractions and repulsions a kind of ‘spiritual set-up’— whatever it takes to open our eyes and get our focus and attention.
Just like love can turn into hate in a matter of minutes, so hate, if we are open to it, can turn to love.
Why?
Because through the ‘attraction’ of hate, we are made so uncomfortable that we’re invited to investigate ourselves. If we are wise enough to take a moment to realize how much hate actually hurts us— oftentimes more than it hurts the one we focus our hatred upon—it can help us to learn where we ourselves…
