It’s Not Them, It’s You

Oof, taking accountability

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Betrayal sucks. No one gets out alive and no one gets out without being betrayed. It’s a part of the human experience. Ask Jesus about Judas and Peter.

As a Highly Sensitive Person with too many years of exposure to abuse, the word victim rarely sets right with me.

Once I entered my 20s, I was often aware that from that point on, I chose to be where I was even if it was based on manipulation, lies, and familiarity. That’s a bold statement. Hear me out. I’m not responsible for their actions. As a fully formed adult, I am responsible for my responses. No one can make me do anything I do not want to do. Example: I’m not responsible for being abused, but that is also not something I did. My responsibilities are in my responses to the abuse. While someone else’s behavior may influence my responses, my responses are still my choices. That gives me the power to grow, learn, and flourish well beyond a hurt person who hurt me. It allows me to grow instead of becoming like the hurt person who hurt me.

Although I had discernment I had generational baggage, unhealthy attractions, and a child-like heart that could make what is clear to me in the spirit unclear in the material world. It’s why I removed myself from environments that compel me to exist outside of myself. It’s why I preferred to…