You Don’t Suck, You Just Need to Stop Thinking You Do

You’re not an imposter, a crock, or a failure.

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I suck at programing.

Those were my first words when I was trying to learn to program. It was and still is, one of the hardest skills I’m trying to master. There’s something about it that I can’t wrap my mind around.

I started to think that I wouldn’t be able to learn it. That it’s for other people, and not for me. I thought I was an imposter when I talked about tech. Soon enough, others will find out I have no idea what I’m talking about.

Guess what?

Everyone feels that way.

We are hard on ourselves

We know we are good enough for the task. We have evidence to prove so.

But why is this feeling still there?

I think because we compare ourselves to others often. I compare myself to others all the time. All. The. Time. That’s what causes me to think I’m an imposter. When I succeed at some task, I feel great. Then I see others do it. I decidedly chalk up my success to luck. I say ‘I got lucky, but so-and-so is way better, they seem to have it all figured out’.

But when I objectively compare myself to others, we are not so different after…